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084: Dealing with Negativity

mindset Apr 18, 2019

Change is hard.  We have to find the motivation and drive to change our mindset to change our actions.  There is usually a good deal of negative voices coming from within that we need to overcome.  Sometimes those voices are external. Friends, family, and complete strangers will also comment on our journey, and not always in the nicest manner.

On today’s episode we talk about the negative voices coming from outside, also known as the haters.  We cover a lot of points, but the biggest takeaway is that perspective is extremely important.

First, whatever message you are sending out into the world is not going to be received the same by every person.  They have their own opinions and values, and frankly even their current mood may affect how well they interpret your message.  Some people may try to hold you back for your own safety, some out of fear of losing you, some out of jealousy that you are accomplishing things they want to accomplish.  Your message needs to show your values, and let other people interpret them how they see fit.

Second, you are in charge of your emotions.  Set your emotions to happy and spread the joy around.  When someone try to rain on your parade, don’t let it derail your happiness.  

Third, realize how important your time is.  If you are wasting time thinking or responding or stewing about on some negative comment that someone made, you are wasting valuable time you could be using to do something much more mentally and physically satisfying.  Don’t let the haters steal your day away.

Next, stop judging other people.  If you are constantly passing judgement onto others, then you will interpret any comments toward you as a judgement.  When you are surrounded by a strong group of people trying to lift each other up and support each other, then judgements disappear and are replaced with simple observations.

Once the negative judgements are seen as objective observations, you can look at them without your own emotions.  You can decide that you initially felt offended because the comment was on one of your insecurities. You can decide that the comment was true, but it was on an area of low priority for you, so you do not have the time to worry about it.  The point is, you get to decide how to respond.

Hopefully this message is helpful to you regardless of if you are trying to change others or simply change yourself.  When you send your message out to the world, decide why you are doing it. Are you trying to show off, or are you trying to help and inspire others.  If you are truly putting yourself out there to teach and inspire, then just keep sending your truth and let the haters deal with themselves.


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