455: Choose Your Hard… But Not Like You Think

You’ve probably heard the phrase “choose your hard.”

On the surface, it makes sense because no matter what path you take, there’s going to be some level of discomfort.

Running is hard…Not taking care of your body and dealing with the consequences of that…also hard.

Strength training is hard…Losing muscle, feeling weak, dealing with injuries later…that’s hard too.

The hard will come, so it’s about what kind of hard you choose and when you choose to do the hard thing. 

This mantra can be empowering and remind us why we’re doing hard things, but as I thought about it more, I realized it can also hold us back if that’s the choice we always make.

The Truth About “Choosing Hard”

When people use this phrase, it’s often to motivate. Do the hard thing now or it will be forced upon you later. 

Makes sense. 

But I think a lot of people can take it to the extreme and think that they need to choose hard ALL the time.

The goal isn’t to constantly push yourself into discomfort just to prove something.

The goal is to choose the kind of hard that actually moves you forward.

There are two very different types of hard, and learning to recognize the difference can completely change how you train, how you show up, and how you feel in your body.

Aligned Hard is the kind of hard that builds you. It challenges you and helps you to grow. I like to think of this as “growth-oriented hard”.

It’s not comfortable, but it’s productive.

It looks like:

• Going for your run even when motivation is low
• Staying consistent with strength training
• Doing speed work, especially that tempo run that you hate
• Being patient and trusting the process instead of rushing results

This kind of hard challenges you, but it also leaves you feeling grounded, accomplished, and more connected to your body.

Misaligned Hard, on the other hand, is a completely different story.

This is the kind of hard that drains you. I think of this as “Destructive Hard”. 

It’s driven by:

• Fear (“If I don’t do more, I’ll lose progress”)
• Ego (“I should be able to push through this”)
• Pressure (“Everyone else is doing more, so I should too”)

It shows up as:

• Pushing through exhaustion just to check a box
• Running medium to hard every single day
• Ignoring pain or early warning signs
• Adding more to your plan when your body is already asking for less

This kind of hard doesn’t make you stronger. It breaks you down.

The Shadow Side of Always Choosing Hard

A lot of runners pride themselves on being tough. On pushing through. On doing more.

But there’s a tipping point.

When you’re constantly choosing hard without intention, you start to see:

• Burnout
• Injuries
• Nervous system overload
• Disconnection from your body

It’s frustrating because you might think you’re doing everything “right.”

But all too often, when we do this, we quickly learn that more isn’t always better.

Hard isn’t always smarter.

We need to have a balance of hard and easy.

Let’s Talk About “Easy”

For a lot of driven runners, easy feels uncomfortable.

Easy can be interpreted as “lazy”, and we all know we don’t want to be seen as that.

It can feel like:

• Not doing enough
• Falling behind
• Losing progress

But what if I told you that “easy” is actually one of the most powerful tools you have?

Easy runs. Rest days. Recovery.

That’s not you slacking off.

That’s where your body actually adapts and gets stronger.

Choosing easy—on purpose—isn’t weakness.

Sometimes, it’s the hardest and smartest choice you can make.

The Volume Knob

So many runners treat their training like an on/off switch — it’s all or nothing. 

You’re all in or you’re totally out. 

This is not helpful for long term progress or consistency.

Instead, start thinking of it like a volume knob.

Some days, you turn it up.

Some days, you dial it back.

The key is learning how to adjust based on what your body actually needs—not what your ego is telling you to do.

Sustainable progress doesn’t come from extremes. It comes from knowing how to adjust.

Choosing Hard with Purpose (Not Just for the Sake of It)

The goal isn’t to avoid hard.

We need hard things to challenge us and help us to grow. Growth does not happen without the hard stuff…in any area of our lives.

The goal is to make sure that the hard you’re choosing actually has a purpose.

This even connects to bigger life themes—like sacrifice, discipline, and growth.

Whether it’s in your training, your routines, or even seasons like Lent, suffering isn’t meant to exist just for the sake of suffering.

It’s meant to be intentional.

It’s meant to shape you, not deplete you.

4 Questions to Ask Yourself Before You “Choose Hard”

The next time you’re faced with a decision to push or pull back, run yourself through this quick check:

1. Is this building me up… or breaking me down?
2. Where is this choice coming from—alignment or fear/ego/pressure?
3. Will this actually support my long-term progress?
4. What would my future, stronger, more grounded self choose here?

These questions create space.

They help you respond instead of react.

You don’t need to prove how tough you are.

You don’t need to choose hard all the time.

What you need… is awareness.

When you start choosing your hard wisely, that’s when things actually start to click.

You feel better. You perform better. You stay consistent.

Most importantly, you stay connected to your body through the process.

Take a minute and reflect:

Where in your life are you choosing hard right now?

Is it the kind that’s helping you grow… or slowly wearing you down?

If this resonated, share it with someone who needs the reminder.
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